More Mindset: What Can We Do When We Don't Have a Choice?
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I’ve spent the last couple of weeks in Scotland with my Mum and Dad, marking my birthday and a whopper of a wedding anniversary for my folks. Last week they celebrated 65 years as a married couple. That’s a phenomenal achievement.
Here’s one of my favourite photos from their wedding. My beautiful Mama is signing the register and my Dad’s eyes are glued to her face. His expression is a mix of nervous glee and bewitchment: “Look at this glorious prize I won!”
Getting married was a huge deal for a 23-year old Scots lad living in embassy bachelor’s quarters, nearly 6,000 miles from home. And possibly even more so for a 21-year old British girl, who’d been born in Burma but had never been to the UK.
In case you’re thinking you might be seeing double, yes there is another bride in the picture. My mother had a double wedding with her sister.
So, what does the title of this article mean by not having a choice?
A few days ago Mum read me a quote from a newspaper. I can’t remember the exact wording but it was something along the lines of “You always have a choice – until you have no choice.”
“I guess that makes sense,” Mum said. “Maybe there comes a point where we really don’t have a choice.”
“Mmm,” I said doubtfully. “I don’t agree, and that’s not what I teach my clients. I think we always have a choice.”
“But what about when we really don’t have any option, like being forced to stay at home during Covid?”
“Great example,” I said. “We were told how to behave and mostly, we obeyed. The thing is, how we BEHAVE is only one of the ways in which we respond to a situation. There are at least two other ways.